we're all annonymous

Every one has something someone out there wants therefore we need to realise that we can cause jealousy or hurt without intending to. Therefore the saying haters hate because they're just jealous. Even when you label yourself as useless your whole life or ugly or cursed, trust me there is someone on this earth who wished they could have that one thing of yours that they don't have. Varies from personality to looks to items to gifts to situations etc. If you happen to come across a hater in the form of a stranger, well that's easy, just avoid. They can't get to you anyway. However, if it comes from your own friends or worse, flesh and blood then you have to find it in you to not fight fire with fire. If you can recognise where their hate comes from, be empathetic. Be kind with your words and examine what is it about them that you've always wished you've had and compliment them. Sticky situation resolved. The problem with people nowadays is reality television fucked us. If people talk shit about us means "oh god I'm a celeb!" Seriously, no. You'll end up with them forgetting they wish they were you and just all out hate you and bring along a whole army. And when you die, you won't have people praying for you in their memories, they'll curse at you and if you're a believer of any religion, that equates to a screwed up after life. If you've ever been part of a social circle, you know you've felt jealousy before or been victimised by it before. If you have yet to, then you must be a saint that you can actually push aside such extreme emotions. Since noone is a saint currently walking this earth, let's just admit to it. Just saying.

So the next time you wish to make fun of someone at the same table and he or she shows discomfort, please stop. Also, the next time you wish to speak ill of someone with the disgusing notion that you feel like you have the right to, stop that too. At the end of the day, when it all surfaces, you'll look bad. What's worse is if it was someone you're close to that you did it to, because trust me, with the secrets they can share about you, you'll fight a losing battle if they can't forgive you.